How Is A Digital Rectal Exam Performed
A DRE is a physical exam of the prostate. The health care provider will ask the patient to bend over a table or lie on his side while holding his knees close to his chest. The health care provider slides a gloved, lubricated finger into the rectum and feels the part of the prostate that lies next to it. The DRE may be slightly uncomfortable, but it is brief. This exam reveals whether the prostate has any abnormalities that require more testing. If an infection is suspected, the health care provider might massage the prostate during the DRE to obtain fluid to examine with a microscope. This exam is usually done first. Many health care providers perform a DRE as part of a routine physical exam for men age 50 or older, some even at age 40, whether or not the man has urinary problems.
How Often Should I Ejaculate
When practicing semen retention, how often am I allowed to ejaculate, you may ask.
Lets start by looking at what the Taoist tradition recommends when it comes to ejaculation frequency.
Please note that I write this for your information, my personal recommendation is to ejaculate once every 21-90 days. Science has now also backed up that 21 days of not ejaculating will raise the testosterone level by 145.7%, see myvideo here for more info on that.
Emperor Tang poetically proclaimed the following statement:
If the man has a sexual relationship with a woman and his seed is preserved, his vital essence is strengthened.
If he succeeds this a second time, his sight and hearing will improve.
The third time, all his physical disorders disappear.
The fourth time he will begin to perceive inner peace.
The fifth time his blood circulates with great strength.
The sixth time he achieves sexual mastery.
The seventh time his thighs and buttocks will become firm.
The eighth time his whole body will radiate excellent health.
The ninth time his life span will increase.
In the traditional texts of Taoism, we can gather four different recommendations of how often a man ought to ejaculate.
A Guide To Prostate Massage
Caitilin Kelly, MD, is a clinical physician at Indiana University Health Bloomington Hospital and is board-certified in internal medicine.
Prostate massage is a procedure in which a finger is inserted into the rectum to stimulate the prostate gland. The goal is to release excess seminal fluidthe fluid that mixes with sperm to create semenfrom the ducts of the prostate gland.
Alternative medical practitioners claim that prostate massage can ease prostate inflammation while alleviating pressure on the urinary tract. Among the conditions prostate massage is said to treat are:
- Benign prostatic hyperplasia : enlargement of the prostate
- Prostatitis: inflammation of the prostate
- Urinary hesitancy: difficulty urinating
- Erectile dysfunction: difficulty getting or keeping an erection
Prostate massage is also used for sexual stimulation to help achieve arousal, enhance an erection, or relax the rectum in advance of anal sex.
This article will discuss the medical and sexual purposes of prostate massage. It also covers how the procedure is done, along with the risks and side effects that may come with it.
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How To Keep Prostate Milking Safe And Low Risk
Be gentle, go slow, and don’t make abrupt movements while milking. Aim to use only the soft, padded side of your finger for stimulation.
A few other pointers:
- Use only clean toys that are gentle enough for direct prostate stimulation
- Cut and file fingernails to avoid scratches
- Wear a condom over your finger or wear a new disposable glove
- Always use plenty of lubeif you think you have enough, add a bit more
On another note, make sure you’re clean beforehand to deter bacteria from spreading while you play, with or without a partner.
Some men prefer to use an enema for added cleansing before anal play, but that’s not a necessity.
Just give your backdoor more attention while in the shower.
If something hurts, stop!
If you accidentally scratch yourself or get scratched, forgo anal play until you heal.
Don’t apply too much pressure and tread lightly while working with the P-spot.
What About Prostate Milking
When people use the term prostate milking they are referring to massaging the prostate for sexual pleasure. You would keep;on this message until fluid comes out of the prostate. This fluid, officially called prostatic fluid, is a milky fluid, which basically is ejaculate without the sperm.;
When you see some milk keep doing whatever it is youre doing because youre getting close. Some people also enjoy masturbating their penises at the same time. This can take you to another level of pleasure and make you orgasm faster.;
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What Does Prostate Milking Feel Like
At first, prostate milking will make you feel a bit like you need to pee.
However, with a little patience to get through that first impression, you will feel more pleasure than awkward pressure like you have to urinate.
As noted earlier, the prostate is surrounded by nerve bundles, and those nerve bundles are actually connected to the penis.
Most men will tell you that the massaging motions will feel almost like you are stimulating your penis from the inside out.
If you find a sensation that feels especially good, keep up the actions with your finger.
As the sensations heighten and build to a climax point, you may start leaking prostatic fluid , which is a good sign a prostate orgasm is about to happen.
About Dr Dan Sperling
Dan Sperling, MD, DABR, is a board certified radiologist who is globally recognized as a leader in multiparametric MRI for the detection and diagnosis of a range of disease conditions. As Medical Director of the Sperling Prostate Center, Sperling Medical Group and Sperling Neurosurgery Associates, he and his team are on the leading edge of significant change in medical practice. He is the co-author of the new patient book Redefining Prostate Cancer, and is a contributing author on over 25 published studies. For more information, contact the Sperling Prostate Center.
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Every Man Deserves The Semen Retention Power
What if I was to tell you that its not too late to ourselves as men, no matter what age and race.
That we can learn how to gain control over our sexuality and the conscious choice to choose what to do, and when to do it.
In my experience with my clients, this is a very liberating moment.
Since it creates certain confidence in gaining that control and having that skill in our tool belt.
Its not about bragging about how great we are in the bed or using it to manipulate women.
The real reason is that it helps us overcome all the shame, guilt, and sexual repression over the past few years, decades, or even a whole lifetime.
That is causing troubles in relationships, marriages, sexuality, and parenting.
Even though we enjoy outward success, it feels like something is missing in life.
To get to that point is the freedom every man deserves to experience in this lifetime.
Thats why I have dedicated myself to help men get there.
Why Should You Do The Massage Yourself
Knowing how to massage your own prostate pays a great dividend. Firstly, you will be able to do it any day and at any time. Thus, even if you will consider having your partner massage the prostate, it is also important you know how to milk prostate yourself.
Firstly, whether you intend to be massaged by a partner or follow self-prostate massage therapy technique, you need to consult a doctor before performing it. The reason to consult a doctor is to ascertain whether prostate massage therapy is a good fit for your medical condition. Once that is confirmed, you should know how to milk the prostate.
Milking the prostate gland is not a difficult activity. In fact, you can milk your prostate effectively in less than 5-10 minutes. It just requires you to know how to find your prostate.
As pointed out above, the prostate is located near the bladder and urethra. To find the prostate, you have to thrust your massager or your hand upwards aiming at the prostate gland.
Another important consideration is;external prostate massage. Prostate massage could be either internal or external. Internal massage is done by inserting the massager into the anus to stimulate the prostate but external massage is done by massaging the prostate externally. Each of these considerations on how to stimulate prostate would yield great dividend when done appropriately. The keyword here is appropriately. When done inappropriately, unwarranted results may occur.;
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Ejaculation As An Addiction Conditioned By Society
Lets get real deep for a moment.
Ponder over this question:
Why does sexual intercourse have to finish with an ejaculation each time?
Who has determined that it is something natural? if not our fixation on sexuality and porn.
In porn, its a MUST to ejaculate at the end of each movie.
Without it, the actors might not get paid as much.
Hence the nickname the money shot.
And the more glorious and impressive the cumshot is, the more it is focused on and displayed on the screen.
And so, the more dopamine triggers in the males brain who watches.
So in an overindulged sexualized society that puts ejaculation on a pedestal its no wonder we think its natural and get hooked on frequent ejaculation and porn addiction.
I Have Premature Ejaculation Is Semen Retention Possible
The good news is, yes! Semen retention can actually help you to overcome premature ejaculation.
But it might require a little bit more effort and practice. Its good to have a mentor or coach to guide you and not do it yourself.
The most important thing if you ejaculate prematurely is to strengthen the pelvic muscles, called the PC muscle.
You can do this by the practice of kegels and Mula bandha. For a comprehensive guide on how to perform the pelvic muscles practice, please see myarticle here.
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Because It Can Hit Parts Of The Penis Located Inside The Body
You might not have known this, but much of the penis is actually located inside their body â one third, to be exact. With prostate massage, you stimulate this significant portion of the penis, which is incredibly pleasurable for anyone who’s willing to try it out.
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Is Prostate Milking Good For Premature Ejaculation
Depends.
For guys who can’t handle much penis stimulation without losing it, prostate massage may be another way to enjoy foreplay without directly touching the sensitive parts of your penis.
However, some guys find prostate stimulation to be so exciting and stimulating that it pushes their arousal point even further than usual.
Therefore, ejaculation may happen even faster than usual.
Every man will have his own experience, so a little experimentation may be in order.
If you do find that prostate play causes you to ejaculate faster, using Promescent Delay Spray on your penis before getting started may help desensitize you enough to enjoy the milking and other sexual activities even longer.
If you do choose to use delay spray, be sure to wash your hands to prevent numbing your other body parts while you play.
You will want your hands to be sensitive to touch while exploring the prostate so you don’t unintentionally get a little rough.
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Side Effects And Risks
The tissues lining the prostate and rectum are delicate and vulnerable to cuts, tears, and abrasions. Massaging the prostate too intensely can easily lead to soreness. In the study described above, for example, 8.3% of participants reported discomfort after prostate massage.
Overly aggressive prostate massage can also cause rectal bleeding, creating a risk of bacterial infection or aggravating hemorrhoids.
Furthermore, manual prostate massage is discouraged for men with acute bacterial prostatitis. The massage increases inflammation and may promote the spread of bacteria to the urethra, other parts of the urinary tract, and the bloodstream.
That said, a few small studies of the effects of prostate massage performed by a physician have shown it to be beneficial as a therapy for chronic prostatitis when paired with antibiotics.
It Can Alleviate Painful Ejaculation
Painful ejaculation is rare, but it happens. It can come from infection or inflammation in the epididymis , prostate, seminal vesicles, and/or urethra. It can also signal a blockage in the ejaculatory duct. “Massage can reduce prostate inflammation and make ejaculation less painful,” says Mills.
Another cause of painful ejaculation can be tight pelvic floor muscles, which can occur when men have an inflammation or infection of the prostate. Again, Gonzalez says doing Kegels can help. “Manual manipulation of those muscles during prostate massage can further alleviate ejaculatory pain. This is definitely something you would want a specialist to work on with you,” he says.
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Wet Dreams May Increase When Sleeping On Stomach
According tothis study, and in my own experience, sleeping on your stomach may increase the risk for wet dreams. So if you want to avoid nocturnal emissions, dont sleep on the stomach.
The results indicate that sleeping in the prone position may promote dreaming of sexual, erotomaniac, and persecutory material, such as themes involving having a sexual relationship with a big wheel or celebrity,being smothered, unable to breathe,being locked up, and being tied, unable to move.
There Is Freedom In Ejaculation Choice
Understand that controlling your ejaculation is not about rigidity its about freedom.
Freedom of choosing when to ejaculate what I call ejaculation choice.
When both you and your lover are ready, then you can choose to climax together.
The frequency is up to you depending on what you feel is right for your body and system.
A lot of men are suffering from premature ejaculation and come before they are ready.
To be able to extend a couple of minutes to 2 hours of lovemaking, or however long you feel like, is liberating.
Semen retention is freeing yourself from the bond of compulsions and impulses.
Listen to the intuition of your body, but dont be fooled by the animal instincts of the reptilian brain.
Its a subtle art of learning to decipher between the voice of the heart and the one of the mind.
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Positions For Prostate Milking
If you’re finding your prostate a little hard to locate or it’s difficult to achieve consistent stimulation, try one of these positions.
- On your back, legs in the air: This position is good for partner play and inserting toys.
- Bent over furniture: Find a table, chair or sofa back that’s the right height and bend over to explore your prostate!
- Lying on your side: Perfect for when you’re in bed or on the sofa. Reach behind you or behind your legs to stimulate your prostate.
- All fours: Get on hands and knees to make your prostate more accessible. This position is great for strap-on penetration from your partner.
Male Sexuality Vs Female Sexuality
Lets try a thought experiment for a moment. Imagine if you
- had never been conditioned by sexual shame and porn in your entire life.
- would have been taught at an early age to be aware of your sexual energy so you could move it around in your body.
- were taught about womens sexuality, that they need an emotional connection to open up sexually, and a minimum of 20 minutes to just get aroused.
How do you think you would approach women and the sexual act differently?
Women dont need to get pregnant every time they have sex, right?
So why do men have to try to impregnate their seed, every time they have sex?
What if the things we learned about sex are lies?
That its not sinful but sacred, and not supposed to be over with quickly but enjoyed as long as you want?
And what if there is a difference between having sex for pleasure and producing offspring?
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How To Manage Blue Balls/epididymal Hypertension
Some men will experience blue balls or what is medically known as Epididymal Hypertension when first practicing semen retention. This is caused due to a build-up of pressure in the testicles. Often because you pushed yourself too close to climax and the point of no return. Dont panic if this happens to you, it is not dangerous but can be very uncomfortable. But with practice this pain will be lessened more and more.
If acute and unbearable pain occurs you can do one of the following epididymal hypertension techniques:
- Take a cold shower or apply an ice pack directly onto the balls.
- Exercise: do 20 burpees on the spot.
- Chug a gallon of water and clear the pipes through urination
- Ejaculate if everything else fails, but then you defeat the whole purpose of semen retention.
More About Sonic Prostate Massager
All prostate massagers are not the same. Most of the products advertised as the prostate therapy massagers are in fact sex toys and not well suited for proper stimulation.
One of the best prostate therapy devices out there is sonic prostate massager. Sonic prostate massager was developed by a team of doctors and is a medical device that produces soft sonic wave vibration with a frequency of 9000 to 12000 micro-impulses in a minute. It combines mechanical pressure and sonic waves technology to soothe and massage the prostate. The sonic wave vibration released by the massager helps to ensure seamless circulation of blood around the prostate. Most prostate problem occurs because of poor blood flow in this region but with sonic prostate massager, you can also improve lymph fluid flow that cleanses blood in areas affected, strengthen bladder control to improve urination and relieve pain, and also strengthen your prostate muscles whose efficiency has dwindled due to age. Sonic prostate massager comes with an instruction manual on suggested techniques. The instruction will guide you to properly administer, use and maintain the massager and also how to milk your prostate. You can learn more about prostate massage, its features, and the benefits obtainable from using this prostate massage therapy tool by following the link below.
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